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61 thoughts on “French vs American Weddings: Did you know these 9 differences?”

  • That was really interesting !!! I knew some things thanks to american movies but didnt know everything! Yeah partial invitations can be hard to understand but it's bc marriage are really expensive (locations/castel rents cost a lot) and maybe ? (I dont know about this as Ive never been to an American wedding) bc there are so many people invited ? What would you say ? Reception are as big in France than in the US ? Is there the same number of people invited ?

  • Actually, the rights of PACS and marriage are not exactly the same. You have little less tax beneficits when you're "pacsé" and the retirement pension rights of the person you're "pacsé" with, in case you die, is the not the same. But in the end, the rights are not that different.

  • Your comparisons on US/French traditions are instructive. You talked about the ceremony cake, the "pièce montée" but you didn't say if you thought it was good, ahahhah! For your next videos, keep telling us about the sociological differences that you analyze well on these 2 countries.

  • Really interesting about the toasts, from the two family weddings I’ve been to I was really surprised that they’re weren’t toasts by the parents. My French father in law told me that, his children know how much he loves them and he doesn’t need to tell the wedding guests that since it’s not their business. I have some weddings this summer and am looking forward to some over the top toasts though 🙂 thanks for sharing!

  • Est ce que vous avez des "enfants d'honneur" aux US ? Ici ce sont de jeunes enfants qui généralement tiennent le voile de la mariée, apportent les alliances et jettent des pétales de fleurs à la sortie. Ils sont tous habillés pareil.
    Les témoins en revanche n'ont pas ce rôle et n'ont pas toujours de tenues accordées (même si c'est de plus en plus courant)

  • Woot awesome video gf! Shout out to all my ex PACS gals out there – a sometimes necessary step for those risk averse Frenchies of ours haha 😅

  • Great video 🙂 I'm American and my husband is Slovak and we're living in Slovakia. Weddings here go all through the night too and they even have a midnight ceremony where the bride will switch her hat to signify that she is married. So many games and traditions. We just opted for an American court house wedding 😅

  • In the UK we invite close family and friends to the full day and then do "evening invites" for acquaintances who arrive around 7/8pm for the 'evening' portion of dancing and drinking. When my French boyfriend said they do it the other way round and expect people to leave I thought it was so rude 😅

  • Cool video! I'm spanish and I also find many differents between our weddings and the ones I have attended in France. Many of them are about the same subjets but they are no even similar to the american ones!

  • In the part of the US I live in (Oklahoma), it can be normal to just be invited to the reception (party after the wedding) but if you're invited to the ceremony then you're invited to the reception.

  • I’m French and I don’t understand this tradition of inviting people to a part of the wedding. You can even invite to the cocktail & the cake… I mean like people leave the wedding and come back a couple of hours later.

  • I’m from Utah and it’s super common to be invited to only half of a wedding/just the reception and not the ceremony 😂 But that’s because Mormon wedding practices have heavily influenced wedding culture in the area, even for non-Mormon weddings.

  • Il y a beaucoup de différences entre le mariage et le PACS. Le PACS est une ébauche d'organisation patrimoniale qui vous donne des avantages en matière fiscale mais on est très loin du degré de protection que le mariage offre en matière de droit civil. Juste à titre de comparaison entre le mariage, le divorce, les successions, il doit y avoir plus de 250 articles du code civil qui traitent du mariage et de ses effets. Alors que pour le PACS, il n'y a pas plus de 10 articles dans le code civil. Bonne continuation.

  • That's so true about French speeches vs. American! I'm a Frenchie who got married in the US to my American husband. My family and friends who flew over from France planned this massive skit with props, costumes, and video interviews. You're right that it's usually interactive and very funny. Our American guests could not believe it that skit is the #1 thing everyone remembers about our wedding. It's such a fun tradition but also a lot of pressure on the siblings and "temoins"!

  • Hi. Sorry (for my English, too), but Rosie and you seem to have the same problem : you generalize too much clichés. Yes, we have a lot of castles in France, but not "most of the people are getting married there", because it's expensive.

  • Partial invites seem like a recipe for drama.

    Edit: NO HARD ALCOHOL?!?! Oh no, that’s not gonna work. Plus, too much champagne makes my stomach hurt.

  • Hi, I am from France and i've been to a couple weddings in Montreal,Canada and It's very similar to what you just said about the US weddings. Another thing that shocked me is that all the weddings i've been to were in summer, and both were in a reception closed, no access to the outside with like a nice yard for the kids to play or things like that. Everybody is inside with the AC. I've been disappointed with that. I don't know if it's also the case in the US.

  • Hi! My Frenchie and I are getting married next year, and this weekend we were all chatting and his mom said it was essential for the FIRST dance to be between her and my fiance and my father and me. She said that after this dance each parent hands us off to each other so opposite of the states… I was a bit shocked! Have you experienced this at a French wedding before?

  • I was a bridesmaid to my sister’s wedding in the United States when I was twenty. I was far too inexperienced then to be of any help or advice and served mainly as a decoration. Yes, I have also been to several weddings in France. Usually here people really feast a lot. Before there were live orchestras which were less noisy than disco music.

  • Your video was very interesting ! 😀 I think what's interesting today is that French people are more and more influenced by american weddings. For example, wedding on the beach or in the country side is more and more popular, and above all, everything regarding the bachelor and bachelorette party (even trips) that did not exist before and is now almost mandatory, and also the bridesmaid(s), that did not exist before (only "témoin"), which helps the bride before and during the wedding.

  • Correct me if I'm wrong but in France témoins and bridesmaids are two different things. The bride and the groom need one witness each and then can have bridesmaids too! And bridesmaids don't have to sign anything, just help the bride 🙂

  • The wedding witnesses… one for the maid, one for the groom… have a huge responsability, the youth life burial (ehm, not sure if I can translate it like that) where the to be married must follow without knowing what will happen….They are the organisator of that famous last day of freedom.
    Too bad you didn't mention the garter auction…. higher is the auction, higher the bride must wear the garter… Though, I'm not sure, maybe it's same tradition with US wedding?
    and the chamber pot? ugggh

  • I think that’s because both of them live in Paris, where there is a lot more money in general than in the rest of France.

  • Great video!! You're totaly right, we (as a french person) are inviting more people to the ceremony than the reception, but it seems not rude to us because these person are neitghbourgs or people that are currently working with us, but we are not very close to. And the day after the wedding, maybe not everywhere, there is a brunch. It's with less people than the reception, mainly the close family and the gests that are comming from far away 😊
    And the pièce montée is the best part!! Love it 😂😂😂

  • You didn’t mention the dress code at French or US weddings and I was wondering if there is as big a difference between the two as there is between U.K. and US weddings. I once attended a wedding in England between an American and an English girl. All of the Americans who travelled over, wore evening wear, as in Tuxedos and long gowns, whilst the English people were all in daywear with the women wearing gorgeous hats. At the time I thought it was amusing, as if the Americans hadn’t got the memo. However I later moved to the US and discovered that evening wear is commonly worn at weddings, especially amongst close family. Is it daywear at French weddings too? British and Irish (I now live in Ireland) weddings usually resemble the dress codes you’d see at a royal wedding, just not as posh

  • Yes it is very normal to not attend a full wedding ceremony here in france. In july i was invited to a friends wedding, but only to the morning mass and the evening buffet. Not the meal in between, I actually had to go to the church, leave, and come back in the evening lol

  • So if you have a "PACs " are you considered a civil union?
    and what documents do you need to have for a real actual French marriage just have a officient sign the certificate and nothing else no going to sign at the court etc?

  • I live in the US we go over the top for the wedding I think it depends on the culture of the people of what wedding you are going to.

  • Hello Kate! 😀 Nice video, and glad I've just discovered your channel. I wanted to react to some of the things you mentionned. I'm always open to discuss it. Actually, it's not the majority of French people that have wedding receptions in castles, simply because not everyone can afford it… Something else is, we usually have more people at the reception/ party and less at the ceremony; we usually have our family and closest friends at the ceremony (less people). And "the second category" can actually be welcomed at the ceremony (civil or church), but I think that depending on how close they are to the people getting married they'll attend / they'll make arrangement plans to go to the ceremony 🙂

  • Since it's not mentioned in the video, I'm going to assume that fist fights between drunk family members degenerating in all out war is a staple of marriages in both countries :p

  • Actually, in France most of the receptions are at the parents' or any relatives' house, very few weddings are in castles, and it's people who can afford to rent it.

  • In Brazil, everybody is invited to both the ceremony and the reception, but some choose not to go to the ceremony and would rather go straight to the party, and it's all right!

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  • The biggest difference for me between the PACS and marriage is that you can break up the PACS extremely easily, without any lawyers or even having to spend any money at all.

  • I do not care where you are from. I have family in France and my wife has family in most of Europe and Asia. It’s rude to not invite the same people at the reception to your wedding. It tells people they are not good enough or important to go to the wedding and you look cheap. We had 475 people at both events. I spent 28k on a Hotel ballroom and had a live band and plate dinner and coffee bar. Weddings are about your friends and family. It’s not all about your and your wife. Btw. I charged it all and paid it off later… Our wedding are Asian influenced. Cash only as gifts. That helps pay for your wedding..

  • HI! I loved to hear about this. Is there any way you can do a video about your wedding? Like was it I France, how did you invite people, what traditions did you stick with? I am soon planning to get married to my French man in a couple years, but I'm already stressing about the French-American wedding. Or is there any way I could contact you via email? I am very interested!

  • The civil union you’re referring to is called a common law marriage. It used to be after 8 years, a live in relationship was called common law. I don’t think any states recognize that anymore

  • What a mess! We went to the city hall with the witnesses, signed the documents and got back to home. And that's all. We just did not see any meaning in spending money and time for a party.

  • I adore the idea of not being invited to the whole sit-down-reception part of the wedding. I love the concept of showing up for the ceremony, having a glass or two of champagne with a few appetizers, and zooming out sans complications. Perfect. So civilized. U.S. weddings can turn into a long and arduous slog / a fatiguing marathon.

  • By the way, you didn't mention anything about the gift-giving portion of French weddings. Is that similar — i.e., do they register somewhere — or more of a low-key thing? How does that work out. And, how is gift giving in other situations in France?

  • je suis française et ayant regardé ta vidéo je trouve que tu généralise beaucoup:
    Chez moi on fait les mariages sur une journée ( nous avons donc deux repas un jour + le lendemain ce qu'on appel le "retour de noce" donc trois repas) donc à ce prix là évidemment on ne se paie pas de château pour notre mariage et on ne peut effectivement pas inviter tout le monde toute la journée. et nous ne buvons pas obligatoirement de champagne : mon frère s'est marié en Novembre dernier et il n'y a pas eu de champagne du tout. Du bon vin oui c'est sûr. de la bière aussi.
    je trouve que beaucoup de gens qui se trompent en pensant que le champagne est un produit luxueux alors qu'il existe de très mauvais champagnes et de très bons vins meilleurs que des champagnes….

  • Americans ? Just throw them burgers, hormone chicken, greasy anything and they will be more than happy. Beware of the guns !